Most of us are told the answer is inside us. Trust your gut. Believe in yourself. Look inward. But what if that's only getting you halfway there? NYU professor, bestselling author, and host of the Becoming You podcast Suzy Welch reveals why real self-awareness requires more than internal reflection — and why the gap between who you think you are and how the world actually experiences you could be the hidden force behind your plateaus, your patterns, and your struggles to stay consistent.

We get into why asking yourself if you're self-aware is the least reliable way to find out, how to close the gap between your values and the life you're actually living, and why the story you tell about yourself might be the biggest thing standing in your way.

We also talk about the four forces quietly destroying your ability to live in alignment, why your personality isn't the words you use to describe yourself, and how one simple decision-making framework can change the way you approach everything from workouts to relationships to major life choices.

If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things but something still feels off — this one's for you.
Topics covered:

- Why you can't trust your own self-perception alone
- The anonymized feedback tool that reveals how the world really sees you
- The difference between your values and your virtues (and why it matters)
- The 4 forces destroying your ability to live by your values
- How to stop living by default and start living by design
- The 10-10-10 decision making framework